*underemphasied in the recording: attraction to the raider (the future husband) is even to a certain degree related to precisely the proven power and dominance of the raider over their victims (the relatives of the future wive); love for him is a function of both this attraction and his what we would call more “lovable” traits, like being a caretaker (of his family, and their community)
women don’t want to get raped. but they want get “taken”. and they “want” get taken by force if it’s khal drogo (if we are to believe what they say here, so, go and ask your friend and maybe she’ll tell you; virtually every women i talked to about it at the time made remarks amounting to that)
so much for consent-based sex. if it’s to be hot, not just intimate and sensual, there has to be an element of this, “replaying” this ancient script (i.e. playing with some ambiguity)
mentioned
S. C. Gwynne: Empire of the Summer Moon
amongst other things, talking street fights, risktaking, and resulting sexual attraction. interesting for the topic at hand the story where he beat up a smaller guy in a fight between his guys and another group; his girl scolded him the whole way back home, only for this to end up in a night of - to the surprise of no-one - “hot sex”
“hot felon” jeremy meeks . ladies, be honest, would?
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#6 - Raid Fantasies